January 2012 – myspiritcare.com

On the romantic holiday, Valentine’s Day, many people contact psychics for love advice. If you are one of them, there are some facts and cons you need to know before consulting a psychic for advice about what’s going on with your romance.

People mistakenly believe that psychics really can predict who they are “meant to be with” in this life. This belief is inaccurate for many reasons, and people have allowed this belief to damage their lives. Also, because of the ever-changing factor of choice and shifting energy streams that lead into multiple possible futures, it’s important for you to understand what is, and isn’t, possible for a psychic to “foresee”.

Most importantly, you need to know it’s not a psychic’s calling in life to predetermine your choices by telling you who they supposedly “see” as your “predestined” partner! Choosing a love partner (that is also considering you) is a matter of your heart and soul, not a set-in-stone destiny that another human being (psychic) can, or should, predict!

To ask a psychic if you are “meant to be with” another person is a dangerous and incredibly foolish practice. Most psychics will return your mistaken question with a mistaken answer…they will make judgments they have no right to make…and you will set yourself up for some terrible decisions in your life.

All too often, people will fixate and obsess on an inappropriate relationship simply because some psychic told them that they are “meant to be with” the person that they should let go of, but now can’t let go of because some psychic has convinced them of a “destiny” that doesn’t exist. Other people break off relationships that could work, with some adjustments made, because a psychic gave wrong advice. The psychological, emotional, and spiritual carnage from misapplied psychic readings about relationships is very sad. So don’t be a victim of your own naiveté. Know what a psychic can, and cannot do…and do not ask the wrong questions of a psychic.

Psychics are mere human beings with varying degrees of extra-sensory insight. As with all other professions, psychics range in competency. Finding an excellent and qualified psychic is much harder than finding an excellent surgeon, so do your homework.

And when you find a qualified and gifted psychic; don’t muddy your mind by asking even more psychics to “confirm” what the first psychic told you. I know of people who have asked dozens of psychics the same question, only to be entirely confused and financially spent, just to “be sure” of a psychic prediction (which is never “sure” until it either happens or it doesn’t!) For people that do this, psychic readings have become an uncontrollable compulsion and at that point, their problem is spiritual and psychological, not romantic. They need help, but not from a psychic.

So if psychics aren’t a reliable resource to pick your mate, how are you supposed to know who is “right” for you? Let’s start with some simple psychology and some basic facts about romantic relationships. That’s the best place to start and the real “facts of life” you need to know!

Five Important Love Facts Everyone Needs to Know

If this is a potential romantic relationship, the person you have an interest in, will generally show an equivalent interest in you. You will know by their actions, not by hints and looks and inconsistent behavior. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist or a psychic to figure this out! People who are stuck in wishful thinking and fantasy often turn to a psychic to “make real” what is not. Keep your feet on the ground and don’t pretend at love.
A romantic relationship is not the same as a love relationship. Romance is essentially about sexual interest and ego needs, and that’s the bottom line. Love between life partners is something altogether different, even with its important sexual component. So if you’re looking for love, don’t confuse the two.
On-line “relationships” are outright fantasy until you have spent adequate time in the physical presence of the other person and have gotten to know them, first. Thousands of people are having “relationships” in their heads with on-line connections and sadly, they don’t know it’s a mental fantasy and not the real thing. Don’t spend your money consulting a psychic about someone you text or Facebook or who checks out your online profile to see if he/she loves you. Get real. Get honest. There’s no delicate way to tell you the truth about this, so wake up from a widespread, mass delusion that’s making people nuts on a global scale. Don’t pretend at love!
From a spiritual view, you will meet people in your life you’re supposed to meet, but that does not mean you’re supposed to be “together”. All of your love interests have something to teach you about life and your purpose, and there’s no way you can approach these relationships like you were picking an appliance off the shelf at Wal-Mart. Too many people want guarantees. Love doesn’t come with guarantees. Too many people want to check a potential partner off against a bullet list of their wants and fantasies. Other human beings are not objects you should select for their “ingredients” and further, once you “buy” it you don’t “own” it. We are far too possessive and selfish in our love pursuits and thus, we often don’t find the love we seek. The Universe has put you here to live your life in the best manner you are able: you are not here to “get” love like you get a car or a coffee pot. Love is not an object. Love is the supreme force of existence and it will flow like rushing water through your life; if you try to make it concrete so you can hold onto it and own it… you will never, ever, have it!
Sexual fire is the sacred life force which manifests physicality on this planet. It is the key to ultimate spiritual union while in the body, and it is never to be disrespected. Everywhere in the world today, people disrespect this sacred fire and they get terribly injured as a result. Even though social culture misleads you as to the proper use of this sacred fire, if you will find joy and know love you will not follow the crowd. Sex is not a tool to get what you want. Sex is not love. Sex is not free. Sex is not without consequences: physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual, and energetic. Don’t squander sexual innocence; don’t spend sexual energy on a binge or to have another person’s attention. Sex is for real love. And real love? Well, that’s what you’re looking for, isn’t it? Only by realizing what it is not, will you be able to experience true love in your life.

As a clairvoyant that reads energies, I can assess potentials in your relationships but I won’t tell you who you belong with. This is your life, your time to make good decisions, your time to be the very best you are capable of becoming. You can do that by looking beyond what the darkened world tells you about love, and by coming to know love as the transcendental force of existence. Life is not a dress rehearsal, as they say, so when you want to get serious about your own happiness stick to the facts of life and don’t pretend at love.

The good news is, when you are connected to what is real, you don’t have to pretend anymore, because you’ll finally experience an end to emptiness and know the fullness of love that is your birthright. All you have to do is open your heart to life. When you can be thankful for love in all its forms, when you can know the love in your own heart, that’s when a life partner will start looking for you. That’s the way it works. And it’s a good plan.

Why is it that some people make you feel awful just by being around them? Often, it’s an energy thing. Their energy field can bring you down.

Worse, it can happen that their bad energy follows you. It clings to you. You can’t seem to shake the creepy or depressed feelings or the physical symptoms–like cold skin or a dull headache–that come from having been near them.

When I was young, I knew a woman who was an invasive hugger, but what she gave others with her hugs wasn’t the warm fuzzies! She gave ice. Auric ice. She made me cold to my core, and from the tip of every hair to the center of every cell. An energy vampire of expert skill, she drained the life force from everyone she touched and she did it as often as she could reach out and grab another warm body. Sometimes the energy ice would last for hours, and many years later, when I saw her for the last time, she was still vampirizing the life force out of everyone around her.

Learn to Energetically Recognize Yourself from “Other”

People who are spiritually sensitive are more subject to noticeable symptoms, but everyone can be affected by another person’s bad energy even when they’re not aware of it. Many of our readers are empathetic, good people who feel the emotions of other people and the energies of places. Empathic people pick up other people’s feelings and physical problems very easily, and if they don’t know better they can perceive someone else’s energy as their own. One of my clients told me this story:

“I went to my next door neighbor’s house to visit an elderly woman, to offer consolation after the passing of her mother. I hugged her and immediately I got this overwhelming dull, sick headache! She left the room and while I was wondering what was wrong with me, her daughter came up and said, ‘Poor mama! She gets these terrible sick headaches when she gets upset!’ I was blown away to realize I was feeling my neighbor’s headache!”

By being aware of your own aura, you are taking the first step to manage the energies you allow, or don’t allow, into your life. Mindfulness is the key, awareness is the answer. You have your own energy signature. No one else is the same as you in this way. By taking the time and awareness to feel your own consciousness, you are tuning into what is “you” so then, you will also be aware of what is “not you.”

Some people, maybe you, reading this have felt the presence of a departed loved one or another spirit at some time. How is this possible, that you can recognize the presence and identity of a spirit? You can do this because every being has a unique energetic frequency; you included, that is unmistakable. When you become aware of your own Light body, aura, or energetic frequency, (all interchangeable terms) you will no longer confuse your own energy with someone else’s.

Be prepared, though. Keeping your own energy up and vibrant and free of other people’s negativity requires a conscious, deliberate, disciplined effort. It’s an easy choice, really, because by doing so you will experience what it is to feel truly alive, and truly free. Joy and freedom, spiritual, mental, physical health and aliveness to your core is what you will get.

These are the rewards of one who will consciously work to honor and protect their own sacred space, their auric boundaries.

Walk in a Bubble of Light Daily

At the start of each day, before you leave the sanctuary of your home or room, have a Light Bubble meditation exercise, or any one of the exercises mentioned on this site that places a Light barricade around your own aura. Reinforce this in your mind during the day, and especially when contact with undesirable energies can’t be avoided.

Use Discernment about Physical Contact

Most people, unaware of spiritual reality, have auras that are open and defenseless against invasion by other energies. When they have indiscriminate contact with others, such as hugging out of mere politeness, they are vulnerable to unwanted energetic exchange.

Likewise, many people don’t know there is no such thing as “casual sex.” During sexual activity, the aura is wide open and vulnerable to whatever energies are attached to the other person. Many a person has acquired negative energy, which adversely affects their life, from one-night stands and a “friendship” with “benefits.”

While this is a spiritual truth and a practical fact that is not popular in a culture that prides itself in sexual liberation, not all that is called “progress” is truly progress! If you are going to have sex with an essential stranger (someone you have not entered into a commitment with and that you do not really know that well) then the use of conscious auric protection is essential, even though this won’t be enough over the long haul. The only answer is: if you can’t have heart-centered sex with someone you truly know and truly love, don’t!

Make an Energetic Safety Zone When You Are Around People in Trouble

There are wonderful people in this world who like to take in stray puppies…and stray people. They step up to the plate to help troubled folk, which is noble, but not all people in need of a helping hand are good for you to be around. There are safe ways to help, and there are personal boundaries. Opening your life, your wallet, your house, your most personal spaces to the refugees of the world also opens your aura to an assortment of energies you may not be prepared to deal with. When you offer help of this nature, be mindful of the energies that are you and the energies that belong to the other person and keep your energetic boundaries intact.

Whenever you have involvement with people who are seriously ill, have drug addictions, alcoholic problems, psychological imbalances, psychopathic, neurotic, or severely dysfunctional behaviors, know that these beings have energies that need cleansing and you should use auric protection around yourself, otherwise you may find yourself having to deal with negative energy that has been transferred to you.

Choose Your Friends and Associates Wisely

Fact is, there are people you just should not be around! Period! Every person has their own level of tolerance and their own soul mission with regard to other people. Some of you have spiritual connections that need to be worked out with people who are challenging to be around. But remember this: never, ever are you expected by the Divine to take on other people’s energies!! Learn “self” from “other” and keep your own space sacred and inviolate. This is your spiritual duty to yourself.

Toxic relationships happen. The people you should minimize or eliminate contact with will give you certain feelings and experiences. Stay away from people who:

Make you feel drained, exhausted, or give you unpleasant physical symptoms like aches, palpitations, chills, upset stomach, etc.
Talk incessantly about themselves, their problems, gossip about others or dwell on negative or morbid subjects.
Demean you in any way whatsoever.
Try to control you or boss you excessively.
Engage in any form of deceit.
Rage on about other people, their bad relationships, using hate terms and ugly or profane language.
Try to pry information out of you or otherwise invade your privacy without your consent or request.

Know When to Leave and When Not to Look Back

Let’s face it: too often you keep people in your life that don’t belong there because they make you feel bad. Do something about that. You are in charge. Whether it’s a friend, family member, neighbor, whoever: if the relationship does not lift you up or contribute good things to your life, leave it! And don’t look back.

Time for a Look in the Mirror

We can’t end this article without mentioning that life often sends to us what we put out; meaning, if you want good energy from others, give good energy! Many a time I have found that those who complain the most about the bad energy of others are dripping with it, themselves! If this is a frequent problem in your life, it may be time for a good energetic cleaning within yourself, first.

By being positive and loving yourself, you are establishing a strong aura that is far less vulnerable to incoming negative energy. Like attracts like, and that’s a fact. If you are having a problem with attracting the wrong kind of people into your life and it’s been a pattern, it’s time to take the opportunity for self-reflection this brings to you. Everything in your life is geared to help you grow spiritually, and having a good attitude about bad experiences is a good way to get your life on track! 🙂

Auric and Energy Cleansing Methods

Yes, I’ll say it again: a daily spiritual practice to envision and protect your auric Light Body is absolutely essential to keeping bad energy out! Also, when you’ve had some form of contact with someone who has upset you or made you feel bad in some way; take a bath with ½ cup of salt added to it! This is your first remedy and will soothe superficial damage to your energy field.

When energetic interference from bad energy goes deeper, meditation and “decording” (which is a spiritual action of cutting cords between energy fields) can be needed. Emotional counseling may be needed to break toxic relationships apart, and certainly inner work to strengthen a healthy sense of self is almost always a necessary step toward healing.

And of course, when you need help resolving issues with bad energies from other people, it’s probably time to talk to me. I will do a clairvoyant energetic assessment and provide personal guidance relative to your situation. You can have a good life, free from the draining and damaging effects of negative energy!

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