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Psychic Insight About Romantic Love

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The pursuit and keeping of romantic love is a primary concern for most people at different times in their lives. As a clairvoyant here at MySpiritCare, and having consulted with many thousands of clients, it’s very clear to me that often the problems in romantic relationships aren’t about finding love, but in our understanding–and lack of understanding–about what love really is.

We are almost never taught the truth about romantic love because most of the people who set the stage for our lives didn’t understand it either. In this culture, understanding love is a trial-and-error, fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants experience. As much as we don’t want a failed romance, bad relationships are the way most people get their lessons about love. They find out what doesn’t work before they can figure out what does.

It’s a fact that from the moment of birth, we begin looking for love. As adults, we think that romantic love is equivalent to security, safety and to have our needs met because we began our earth lives processing love in that way. As infants, we experienced “love” as being the center of someone’s devoted attention. To get attention as babies, we had to vie for it or manipulate others (cry) to meet our needs and as adults, many people continue this pattern.

It’s a fact that when childhood experiences do not meet our need to feel unconditionally loved and nurtured, adults may seek love relationships to meet the deeply buried needs of their childhood. Surprisingly, many grownups—in one way or another—have not matured beyond this early, infantile perception of love and still seek love as an antidote to their feelings of insecurity. The fear that prompts insecurity is always a detriment to good loving relationships and causes many relationships to go lifeless or fail.

We Get  So Mixed Up About Love

For sure, the romantic ideas that many women entertain (as portrayed in romance novels, for instance) are pure fantasy. These are responsible for untold frustration, heartache and immense suffering on an inter-generational scale. Romantic myths perpetuated in books and movies are profitable delusions, making fortunes for writers and entertainers. Meanwhile, they misguide women who have no experience with knowing the very different male mind and likewise, they do nothing to teach to men the truth about a woman’s soul. And it’s not just the media that makes love fantasies. Our very culture fills people with false assumptions about love.  This is the foremost contributor to why a huge percentage of relationships don’t work out or don’t last.

Misperceptions aside, the fact is that normal human personalities change over time. Partners that were once compatible, based on personalities, often grow apart when deep inner changes occur. This is why partnerships locked onto early in life, before maturity is somewhat ripened, often end.

While many mature women are frustrated at not having found a love well into their forties, they should take comfort in the fact that the most rewarding relationships are often cemented later in life, when maturity is more likely to have developed. People are often in a great hurry to find love, stating they have waited too long already, but romantic love is not a product we can acquire from the world’s inventory of potential partners. We can’t wander into a store and get a lover off the shelf, yet many people act as if it’s that easy!

So what’s the real truth we all need to know about falling in love?

Love is a living force of life, and like all natural and living things, it has its own perfect timing to take root in our lives. It can never be coerced, bargained, bought, chained, or schemed. It is not domesticated and it cannot be tamed, managed or controlled. It does not exist to cater to you. The moment you cage it or take ownership over it, it will die.

The majority of people view romantic love as if it were an object…something they own. They expect it to be dependable, predictable, unchangeable, and that as an object, love is designed to meet their needs on demand. They aren’t aware that romantic love is a changing dynamic, a constantly moving energy force between two lovers, and that it can only be as “perfect” as we are.

Love’s Big Counterfeit: Sex and Romance

The biggest fantasy is that romantic attraction, or sexual chemistry, is love. It is not.  Women often make the mistake of believing that if they have a sexual relationship with a man, he will fall in love. This is simply not the case. This assumption by women is influenced by a their emotional response to sexual intimacy, but men are very different. Sex and love are not equal, and if you are a woman, you should know that giving a man sex will not make him love you.

So to put it another way, being desired and being loved are often considered to be the same, but they most certainly are not. Likewise, romance-the heady beginnings of chemistry in action-is not the same thing as love. Young people in our society should be taught this: while romance is plentiful, true love is rare.

You Think You’re Ready for Love, But Are You?

You are most ready for true love when the idea of having it does not possess your mind. When you can understand that just because the right match has not yet come along, there is nothing inherently wrong with you and it does not mean you are unloved or unlovable. Whether you know it or not, you are loved by life and the Source of Life that gave rise to you. When you can understand that you are worthy of love,  you will be in a position to enjoy a healthy relationship. When you have a healthy, balanced, accepting attitude about yourself and a trust in where your own life path is in this moment, this clears the way for wonderful events to occur.

As a living force of dynamic energy, love is not an object that falls from the sky onto other lucky people. So, if you want to know if you will have true love in your life, the question you have to answer is this: Do you know what that means? 

Can you honestly say that you understand love? Are you willing to take the path necessary to choose a partner who knows how to love—or are you impatient, thinking you can make someone love you who does not have the capacity for love or who does not want it from you?

These are tough questions, and many who seek a love partner are uncomfortable with an honest examination of their own motives. Unless one is willing to “get real” about finding love, complications with relationships are sure to happen.

Despite the complications we create in relationships, human beings long for love. We do so because it is our very essence: there is a Divine Presence at the very core of all of us and this is love itself. An understanding of one’s essential identity is critical to finding a good romantic match, since people normally seek out partners they believe is a match to their superficial personalities. It is the connection between deeper Soul identities where true love is possible. As you understand the realities of love, you ready yourself to have its wondrous experience.

Love = Growth of Your Soul

For those of you who are ready to evolve into the greatest of all human experiences, romantic soul love, Kahlil Gibran has written incredible words that tell you everything you need to know:

“When love beckons to you, follow him, though his ways are hard and steep. …For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning….But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure, then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor…where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.”     

Kahlil Gibran, “The Prophet”

Your love relationship will mirror who you are and your stage of development in life and it is always about spiritual lessons. If you will begin to move past the superficial definitions of love and think deeply about its real meaning, you will take that first step to experiencing a fulfilling relationship that will last… and raise both your Souls up, and up, beyond the stars, into an endless forever of bliss.

When you need help with romantic problems, need insight by having a clairvoyant psychic reading or need coaching about a relationship, you can get a reading from me. You may also read “Psychic Clairvoyant Eye: Is This Romance True Love?”


Psychic Clairvoyant Eye: Is This Romance True Love?

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There is no more common question posed to a psychic clairvoyant than “Tell me about my love life.”

Although people long for love, that does not mean all people can give love, or are able to receive it from another. Some people have personalities where intimacy and love cannot thrive. They can get only so close before they pull away, or worse, they use a pretense of love to get what they want.

To make a love relationship work requires that partners are emotionally healthy and relatively balanced human beings. They must take responsibility for their actions and have the courage to share their hearts with another.

The Need for a Realistic Perspective

It’s wise to think about “love assumptions” before starting a relationship. Many people are in romantic arrangements, not in love, because a true love relationship is not all about how a person qualifies and performs against a checklist. It is about harmonious balance between two people who honor one another as individuals, despite their paired identity. In true love, you will at times take more than you give, other times you will give more than you get. It’s not about keeping “score,” it’s about the expansive flow of energy from your heart to your beloved’s and back again.

Since relationships involve the rise and fall of emotional states, partners often experience unhappiness with one another from time to time. This is normal. But when the unhappiness becomes chronic, it’s time to work together on the relationship.

Many people who should end a relationship hang on when they should let go. Some try to endure a bad marriage by stepping outside the relationship for relief. Some people are with an incompatible partner that they tied up with in their youth, when a rush of hormonal highs and romanticized attraction was mistaken for a lifelong love—a “soul mate.” More than a few couples are together because their current partner was grabbed on the rebound from a previously failed relationship. Some stay because of the guilt associated with dissolution, financial worries, and a fear of the unknown.

There are far more unhappy relationships than many single people realize.

So if you’re a single person, feeling like the world is overflowing with happy lovers and that you’re left out, you can take comfort in the truth that the grass isn’t greener for everyone else. And contrary to what many believe, being with the wrong person is not better than being alone!

When it comes to having the right love in your life, it’s important to give deep thought to what love means to you. You also need to be realistic and be willing to engage in the difficult personal work that may be required before a fulfilling love relationship can become a part of your life.

Will This Relationship Work? 

If you’re seeing someone, or hoping for a relationship with a certain person and you wonder if it’s going to work, ask yourself the following:

  1. Are both of you available and free to have a relationship? –No matter how strongly you feel, how much you think you are the better choice, if either one of you is with another partner; you are likely in for a very difficult path that rarely works out.
  2. Do both of you want a committed love relationship? –If your partner is emotionally available, the relationship will not see-saw “on-again, off-again.”
  3. Do both of you put effort into the relationship? –If one person does all the work to make it happen, it’s a red flag for serious trouble ahead.
  4. Can you be yourselves around each other? –Knowing what someone is really like takes time. Fast entanglements won’t give you an opportunity to know the other person. Relationships that got their start as a sexual romp often don’t stand the test of time because knowing each other was not the priority.
  5.  Do you both keep your word and are you both consistent? –Respect is a vital sign of true love, and chronic inconsistency shows an absence of respect…and thus, an absence of healthy love.
  6. Do you trust this person? Are you trusted in return? –If you are constantly wondering if this person is unfaithful, it is a powerful indicator that the elements of a good relationship are lacking.
  7.  Does the relationship have the emotional nutrient you hoped for?–Maybe there is a simple lack of understanding about your partner or yourself, but when efforts at communication fail to yield emotional nurturing, the relationship is in deep need of attention and repair.
  8. Are you honest with each other? –There can be no viable love without truth.
  9. Is this a personal, face-to-face relationship, as opposed to email, internet, or text? Virtual reality connections are not relationships, they are cyberspace pretend, an outlet for fantasy.
While it may not be easy to be honest with oneself about the quality of a relationship, a clear-headed assessment can help prevent a broken heart. Denial is not a friend in matters of love, but a balance between an open heart and honest mind will lead the way to what you seek. If you need personal clairvoyant insight about your love life and/or relationship coaching,  I’m here to help you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Talking to God: The Three Languages of Spirit

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If you’re like the rest of us, there are times in your life when you yearn to truly “talk to God.” There was a humorous commercial on television where a heavenly receptionist answers the phone, “Heaven…” and assures callers that help is on the way.

Our need to communicate with the Divine is often urgent and profoundly deep, an instinct that arises from a deep core within us, seldom felt otherwise.

The obstacle we wrestle with centers around our focus on form, or physicality. If God had a mailbox, no problem! —Or an address? We could drive there!

Well, I have great news! The Divine Source of your life communicates with you via e-mail…energy mail. You only need to understand the Three Languages of Spirit before you can open your energy mail and clearly understand it.

The Language of Spirit is broadcasting to everyone, all the  time. You were born with the ability to get spiritual guidance…a Loving Creator gave you the ability because deep inside, you were implanted with a desire to connect. –Or as ET said, “Phone home!”

I bet you think of language as words…one word follows another in a linear fashion to convey a concept, like this sentence. Well, have you ever thought about mathematics as a language? It is a language! And what about musical notes, cave paintings or hieroglyphs?? Those are languages, too, symbols that represent concepts, sound, or a collection of words, in just one picture.

You “speak” symbolic language every day. Take a handicapped parking space, for instance. With just one picture, you know it says, “Don’t park here without a permit; you’ll be fined ; you’re selfish if you sneak this space,” etc.

You also experience the language of symbol in your sleep: You dream of a big house, full of water and flying fish…

We often don’t understand our dreams because unlike the language of words, symbols are not linear. Symbols do not convey, word following word, the points to be made. One has to develop a less literal approach to interpretation if one is to understand  the concepts contained in the symbols of a dreamscape, or any symbol for that matter. For example, a house in a dream often represents the Soul, with rooms representing various incarnations or even levels of awareness that are hidden to your conscious mind. Understanding all symbols requires that you allow yourself to expand your awareness and “think outside” the walls of your mental box.

So, then, our frustration at communication with the Divine has to do with our conscious fixation on communicating with our tongues, physically using the language of words. But the Universal order is not so limited and in order to “hear”  the guidance we seek, we have to train ourselves to communicate on a spiritual level. It’s really not that difficult, once you understand how things work!

The Three Languages of Spirit

We obtain communication from Spirit  in multiple ways, and through three different modalities. The Three Languages of Spirit are

  1. Sound/words
  2. Symbols/pictures
  3. Light/frequency

Sound and Words

“In the Beginning was the Word…” Sound includes the spoken language and the means by which I attempt to communicate Spirit to you. This is conscious, linear,  neuron-fired communication in the physical realm.

From a spiritual perspective, one must come to understand that words, and the sound the words make, have spiritual power to do good or to do energetic harm and be destructive. Fact is, there are very ugly words that resonate as ugly  sounds and these have a negative energetic effect in our lives. For example, popular “rap” music with degrading swear words, violent messages, and throbbing dull beats have a negative influence on one’s aura, as well as the collective energy field of humanity.

Uplifting sounds and words have a positive influence. If you pay attention and can sensitize yourself to how the use of words make you feel, you will find that degrading words make you feel worse. Sound and words all  have energies, and once we understand this we can make an abundant use of positive words in our lives.

Aside from spoken language, all sound is energy and has an energetic influence on upholding the  life force or degrading it. Positive sound, as in the pulse of creation and the heartbeat of Mother Earth (known as the Schuman Resonance) create life and sustain our being.

People have used sound to communicate with the Divine since the dawn of time. Drums, rattles and other devices to alter states of consciousness create heightened states of awareness to spiritual reality. Tibetan bowls, chimes, even birdsong can place one in a raptured state that enables a stronger connection to Divine Spirit. Beautiful music can serve the same purpose.

The Divine often communicates with us through song, as well. You may hear a meaningful song on the radio, you may hear the distant sound of singing or joyous laughter and not know where it is coming from. A special bird my light on your window and sing for you.

When it comes to receiving guidance from the divine, you can be positively certain that Divine Spirit always communicates in sounds and words of beauty that will uplift you and encourage loving actions. Divine messages will never degrade, or scold, or tell you negative things!

Symbols and Pictures

Symbolism and Pictures combine into the wondrous language of the Unconscious realm. This is the reality of dreams, of hidden memory and mysterious mind where all our beliefs and memories quite actively influence our waking lives. Symbol is also the language of Higher Mind, of energy  and of inspiration. Many an inventor has received a “flash”…a whole concept in an instant…a brilliant discovery held in a picture or a symbol seen in the mind.

The interpretation of symbol in either your dreams or from a spiritual point of view is an individual matter. For example, the unconscious reaction felt as an impulse at the symbol of a snake will be differently viewed. Some lend a negative connotation, as “He’s a snake in the grass,” and others would see this as a sign of healing, as in the Caduceus or a sign of enlightenment, as in the Kundalini. To interpret symbol it is important to know what it means to you and then learn the greater meaning, beyond provincial beliefs.

Symbols are used all the time in religious and spiritual practices. On a personal level, one can create a mandala to connect to Divine energy.

Symbols on the grand scale are called Archetypes. The spiritual seeker is called to know about archetypes and I do recommend at least a basic familiarity with the works of the late Carl Jung.

Beyond the Unconscious Mind or the Collective Unconscious, on the even higher frequencies of existence, words and pictures lose the edges of their individuation and meld into an infinite sea of energy.

This is the realm of what can only be apprehended as the Language of Light.

The Language of Light

This Divine communication comes from a realm of Light that is pure Consciousness. It conveys unlimited blocks of information instantly. In this human world, you experience these rare interactions with spirit during a second of epiphany when you receive a rare “knowing” about something and it turns out to be right.

The Value of Silence

Behind all language and all knowing, there is the sacred Silence of the Void and  this primeval “place” is the apex of Creation. There are times in your search for the Divine that you will need to find this place, which is the Silence within yourself. This is a place of advanced spiritual enlightenment, where we discover that our own inner quiet and emptiness is the beginning of new life within us. It is most important to realize that “getting silence” can be as much of a communication with the God Force as “getting answers.”

In your search to communicate with God, remember that the energetic realms are subtle. This has been referred to in Scripture as “the still, small voice” to convey the truth that God will not holler at you through a bull horn so you may as well quit trying to hear Spirit in that way. Remember that you are made of Spirit/energy first, and that you have an innate ability to receive Divine guidance at any given moment if you will apply yourself to learning the language of Spirit.  It can be very frustrating at first, to find that still, quiet space within ourselves but know for sure you won’t find what you seek by watching TV or keeping busied every waking moment of your day.

And know this: that although many answers we seek do not come right away nor in the way we expect, they do come.

A relationship with the Divine is like any other…it requires a commitment. So heavenly guides ask that you choose to still yourself, to listen,  to let go, and begin to trust how much you are loved.

You are loved. This is my knowing, and for now take it from me…Heaven is waiting and ready  to help bear you up right now and in all moments to follow.

All you have to do is surrender…just lean into it…and you will know.

If you need help with spiritual issues in your life, I am an ordained minister and trained clairvoyant who can give you a boost on your spiritual path. Select your reading request from the right column and I will contact you to arrange your appointment.


Clean Negative Thought Forms from Your Aura and Feel Good Again!

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Important: Please read “The Power of Thought Forms: What Are You Doing to Your Life?” before you read the following article.

People are often hammered by negative thoughts. While they wonder why, you have learned from our previous MySpiritCare article about thought-forms and how to cleanse your aura. Negative and troubling thoughts are more than brain synapses! They are energies you either create or pick up because you have similar frequencies in your own aura!

When the mind is allowed to idly dwell or when we obsess over the same thing again and again, thought forms will be created that come back to haunt us, making it very difficult to let go of particular thoughts or behavior when we wish to stop thinking about something or acting in a certain way.

For example, a woman who thinks constantly, incessantly about an unrequited love but finally comes to the conclusion that it’s best to move on because the person is not a good romantic interest, may find that she can’t stop thinking about the person even though she wants to. “I can’t get him off my mind! So it must mean I’m not supposed to stop thinking about him! I must have a future with this person!” She assumes because she can’t stop thinking about him even though she wants to, that there is some fated purpose in her incessant thoughts… and that she is “not meant” to let go.

Far from her thoughts being some sign of cosmic purpose, she is a victim of a thought form that she herself made, as it keeps engaging her mind in an obsessive way. Terrible as it is, the thought forms made from improper thinking grow even stronger with repeated focus: their influence widens and deepens until circumstance (often unfortunate) sublimates it to other arising thought forms of similar negative frequency.  Sublimated negative thought forms remain damaging. They do not just “go away,” but influence the deeper levels of the human psyche in more complex and entangled ways.

People trap themselves into negative cycles with their unwitting use of living energy: unproductive thinking, self-centered ego fantasies and negative thoughts have hidden and serious consequences. They lead to pathological and destructive behaviors, suffering, sadness, rage, and grief.  Negative thought forms ruin lives. From a karmic and cosmic perspective, we must also know that what we send out to others, we will receive back. Negative thinking is a no-win scenario of the worst kind.

You Can Change It!

Thankfully, most people are victims of bad thought-forms only due to their complete ignorance. Knowledge provides the power to change everything.

The moment an unpleasant, obsessive, unproductive, fearful, depressed, hopeless, ugly, greedy, angry, hateful, condemnatory, jealous, wicked, injurious thought or mental out-picturing arises in your mind, immediately visualize this thought locked in a bubble of golden-white light and squeeze it until it evaporates in your mind. Say, “I negate and neutralize this idea and give it to Divine Light right NOW!” Then say, “Light, Love, Light!”

Another technique is to immediately respond, “Good-bye, LIE!” and mentally whoosh your dark thought into the light of the sun.

Done as often as needed, these actions neutralize negative thought forms and render them harmless. It won’t take long, if you practice this, before your thoughts become rarified and positive on a regular basis. It is an outstanding remedy for those caught up in negative thinking and helps to heal states of feeling depressed.

This will change your life. When enough people become aware, it will change the world.

If you need further help with energy issues in your  life, I’m here to help! I will do an authentic, clairvoyant energy assessment and give you individual guidance about clearing bad energy out of your life. Working together, we can help you fill your life with the good stuff!

May beautiful thoughts belong to you, and beauty abound in your life!

 

 

 


The Power of Thought Forms: What Are You Doing to Your Life?

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We have explained in other articles on My Spirit Care about the importance of cleansing the aura to remove bad energy and maintain balance of the spiritual, emotional and physical bodies. Another equally important aspect of keeping oneself psychically clean is to think good thoughts and negate bad ones so they do not commit damage in our own lives or the lives of other beings.

That old saying “Thoughts are things” isn’t just an adage! It’s true that thoughts are things. More precisely, they are thought-forms, very real energetic constructs that you create by thinking. They are part of your auric body, although they are often mobilized to go great distances across the material barriers that limit physical form.

For example, when you have an intense moment of thinking loving thoughts about your child who is away at summer camp, a corresponding thought form will be created that contains the energy of your feelings. Made of light, colored according to the frequency and energized by your focus on your child, this lovely formation of light will rush out from you through the miles and attach to a corresponding, resonant field in your child’s aura. He/she will feel Mother’s love from afar, because it has come in the form of a flying hug. The love bounces back, as well, reinforcing the loving energies within you, increasing your own capacity to be a loving person.

The more love you give, the more love you will get.

This is the reason the wise have spoken about Love being the greatest protector. We can offer shields of protection to others with our love because of thought- forms.

Negative thoughts, on the other hand, are not a gift we like to receive and should never be given to another. These cause psychic injuries—and more—and like a boomerang, will come back to injure the sender. I’m sure you’ve heard the old stories of how tomb raiders of the Pyramids had bad things happen to them because of ancient curses. Scientific-minded people would have you believe this was due to suggestion, but in fact the Egyptians whose duty was to protect the Pyramids were masters at the creation of negative thought-forms. Those explorers who were susceptible by reason of their own auric weaknesses would experience “bad luck” from negative thought-forms that attached to their auras. Not nice at all, very nasty.

 Schematic of a Thought-Form

It would not be possible to provide an encyclopedia of what thought-forms look like because they are a lot like snowflakes: under general conditions, no two are exactly alike. Sometimes they are complex designs and sometimes they are lines, arrows, zigzags, clouds, balls, and boxes. They can look like creatures, spirals, thunderbolts, and architecture. Anyone who has looked through a kaleidoscope has had a little demonstration in how some thought forms can appear to the clairvoyant eye and how these change rapidly into something else.

They are made of living light, just like you, and there is no example in the third dimensional world that is adequate to compare their appearance.

Thought-form shapes and colors reflect the quality of the thought that made them. The pictures with this article are two dimensional drawings (made by a 3rd dimensional person!) of hyper-dimensional thought forms, so while the rendition is not perfect, it will give you an idea of what they look like to the relatively few clairvoyants who can see them. The greater the intellect or the stronger the focus, the more defined their construct. The more lovely the thought, the more beautiful its form.

Public Enemy Number One: Negative Thought-Forms!

It takes an especially trained Third Eye to know what thought forms mean or represent. Positive thought forms, which arise with positive thinking, are very desirable. We all want those around us! But negative thought forms are more common to the fearful human condition and silently wreck havoc in our lives. They are created by obsessive, reckless or negative thinking and they breed like an orgy of cockroaches!! Bad thought-forms create more compulsively negative thoughts and behaviors that continue to multiply in receiving and resonant  energy fields.

What some in science call a “meme” and what sociologists call “mob mentality” a clairvoyant calls a thought-form. Truly, we are defining a mind virus. And yes, it is imminently real AND viral.

On a broad social level, repeated similar thoughts (sparked by mass belief) make thought forms larger and more intrusive, influencing things like public policy. Ever-increasing and fanatic religious fervor is an example of how thought- forms infect populations, or even how incompetent people gain positions of power, when no person “in their right mind” would support them. Powerful thought-forms created through ad campaigns and media hype push their way past reason and override conscious decision-making. The injury to society from negative thought-forms is beyond reckoning: the effects are seen, but not the energy that causes it.

The really good news is that we can cure the damage done by negative thoughts. In our next  My Spirit Care post, we will explain how to “Clean Negative Thought Forms from Your Aura and Feel Good Again.” Don’t miss it!

As always, when you need our psychic advice to eliminate negative and bad energy from your life, or when you need a clairvoyant psychic reading or clairvoyant energy  assessment to understand what energies are around you and what to do about it, we are here to help you.